We will all lose people and experience grief in our lives. What happens when we carry our grief too long, when we leave our business unfinished? How do we heal ourselves from losses in our lives? Indigenous peoples have lost relatives, lost access to our lands, lost many things as a result of colonization. Gerry believes that if we become strong families again, there is nothing that can stop us - but before that happens, we have to get past the grieving of our losses by facing them head on and dealing with them. 

Grief and loss is not only about death - we also grieve the loss of our identities, our prosperity and our traditions. However, our grief can be resolved. If we don’t resolve our grief, we can become vulnerable to harmful behaviours, such as substance or process addictions, which numbs us to what ails us. These patterns of behaviour are not sustainable, and can produce unhealthy outcomes.

If we take a good look at our unfinished business, there’s almost a complete guarantee that your life will become more manageable, that you will feel lighter. Gerry says that the key to this is taking charge of our minds, to release emotions like laughter, crying, encouragement and gratitude.

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